Sisters

Since my family does not know about this blog I can speak my mind about them! I am so loving that!

Like I said earlier I only have 1 sister she is 2 years older than me and has 3 girls that for the most part are grown. She got divorced last year and has moved on I would really like to say to greener pastures but not the case. She got divorced in April 2007 and met her current boyfriend in May 2007. Needless to say, I can't stand him! I love my brother in law and still stay in contact with him which drives my sister crazy. In fact we got in a huge fight over it because she felt I should not keep in contact with him at all. Well, they started dating when I was 14 and I did not have any brothers so he is like my brother. I did not divorce him she did. He was a good husband and father. I have no reason to have bad feelings towards him. So I still consider him my brother. I truly feel my sister did wrong to him but I keep my mouth shut about that. There have been several things my sister has done to me regarding my friends that have really put a strain on our relationship. When I was divorced I had a guy best friend. He was actually my 2 best girlfriends growing little brother. He is like 5 years younger than me and is like my little brother. We hung out all the time ... I taught him how to cook, we grocery shopped together, got drunk together, I loved going to the clubs with him because I knew he would not let anyone mess with me. We pretty much had a friends kinda group going on. Well, there is a tradition in our family that we all go up to my dad's house well now my step mom's house for 4the of July they have a huge festival. Well a few years ago when my dad was still here she asked me to bring my guy friend up lets just say his name is T. So I did. We had a good time but I kinda noticed that T and my sister would disappear for while. I was like WTF is up with that. I never questioned them at all. So we get home and a about a month goes by and she calls me and says I got T on a conference call with us. I was like ok but why? She replies I have been talking to T alot.like.alot. Ok so I am still confused???? She goes on to say that T feels guilty because he feels like he is keeping something from me. Ok so you talk no big deal! I still can't figure out how she got in contact with him because she never knew any of his numbers or email or anything. So T was going to be having surgery on his knee so my sister decided to go to the hospital with him and then take him to her house to recover because he lives alone. Ok now I am thinking this is weird. A few weeks after his surgery they decide to go back up north to my dad's house her, T and her kids. OK WTF ? So I go up on the weekend and clearly see that there seems to be something else going on with them. I am not happy nor was my dad. So this kinda shit went on for months. Then it seemed to die down. The whole time my brother in law K does not say a word about it. I was really not friends with T anymore because I felt backstabbed! I was pissed.pissed.pissed!

Ok so lets fast forward a few years I married to my husband Nick and he has a single brother L. My sister calls me one day and says hey can I have L's phone number so I can call and wish him a happy birthday. I really did not want to give it to her but I did. So guess what she starts a relationship with him which is totally just friends BULLSHIT! That is what I say. So K starts getting pissed about it beause he has read a few of her text messages from him and they were less than innocent. So I ask her please stop talking to him because it makes family get togethers a little stressful because you can feel the tension in the air. Nick asks her please don't talk to him he is single and your not there is no reason to be talking to him. Does she listen NO! So that kinda faded away. Then she gets divorced and does not talk to him at all ..... kinda weird but OK.

So now I work in the automotive industry which means I work with mostly men. In fact I am the only woman in my office. It is ok because I can hold my own! I go into work yesterday and I sit at my computer and pull up the windows that are opened and it was the single guy I work with's myspace. Ok so I was being nosey and look thru his emails and guess what he emails back and forth with my sister WTF! She lives 3 hours from me and there is no way she could have got in contact with him except thru my myspace. Are you noticing a pattern because I sure am. He has never said a word to me about this at all. She really has not talked to me much in the last few months. But she is now living with her boyfriend and still feels the need to talk to single men and particulary men in my life because we all go out once a month and I am pretty close to them. So why.why.why?

I just don't understand it. I kinda feel like she is on a mission to destroy relationships I have with people.

I really wish someone would comment because I need to hear someone elese's opinion because I am overthinking it too much!