I am always a proscratinator when it comes to doing anything. I work best under pressure... thats my moto LOL. My niece's wedding is a week from today. I finally went dress shopping last nite. I love to take Marco with me cuz he has such style. He had plans so I resorted to taking Nick with me. Dom works at this department store here and I get 25% off and I decided to take advantage of it. I have been eyeing a dress there for a few weeks and I was hoping they still had it. Oh and yesterday was Dom's 20th birthday so I decided to bring him cupcakes to work... I know cheesy but I did it. We get up in the dress section and they had the dress I had been eyeing. I asked Nick if he liked it and he said yes. I grabbed it with a few others and went into the fitting room. I made Nick come in the fitting room with me cuz I was not gonna be able to zip any of the dresses on my own. He didn't like the one I liked he said it was too tight that I needed a bigger size... WAIT DID HE REALLY SAY THAT... yes he did. I had PMS and was pissed at him for suggesting I get a bigger size when I knew the bigger one would be too big. I was bloated and it would fit better in a few days. I personally thought it was cute. He says to me in the fitting room why does the size matter? Really Nick... size is the most important thing to a woman. I got a bit pissy with him got my clothes on and got the bigger size. He also picked out this other dress for me to try on. I tried the one that he picked and of course he loved it. I decided to get a third opinion so I went out to the sales lady and asked her what she thought. She said it was ok. I got back into the fitting room and I told him I thought the dress looked matronly. I tried the bigger one on and it was too big like I thought. I put the original one on and went out to the sales lady and her eyes lite up she said Ohhhhh yes that is it... it makes you pop! She also said the other one makes you look matronly! Us woman we know what we are talking about! I got the deal of the century on it too! I love that Nick even came with me which is more than most men would do LOL. I am excited for the wedding but not excited to see my sister's husband... I refuse to call him my brother in law! I hope he doesn't do anything to ruin the wedding but I just have that feeling that he won't be able to keep his drunk mouth shut. I will simply walk away from him.
Happy Sweetest day to everyone and enjoy your weekend!
Saturday, October 16, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Perspective
I have not blogged in awhile just because life is so busy for me always! I miss it but truly sometimes I just don't know how to put things into words. Lately I have been trying to concentrate on my perspective about life. I guess there is alot of truth to the saying "life is what you make it" I am learning that I tend to be an overthinker. It is horrible because I am always thinking one step ahead of where I actually am. I have taken a few steps back and learned to look at the Fall colors for what they are... beautiful! Not look at them and think OMG I hate the drearyness of Fall and Winter. I am gonna learn to embrace it with a different attitude. I tend to come off in person as a postive person but there is always that little negative bitch that lives inside me. I am trying to overcome that.
School started here about a month ago for the twins and a few weeks ago for Dom. The twins are juniors this year and Dom is in his 2nd year of college. I enjoy these years with the kids even tho they can make you crazy. Marco is doing great so far this year he seems to be real focused and is in the medical program at the high school. That boy amazes me! I am so in awe of him and everything he is overcoming. He started Weight Watchers 9 weeks ago and has to date lost 33 pounds. I am so freggen proud of him! I am his biggest fan. I have to sit back and change gears while parenting him tho because he is sometimes like a girl. It is kinda funny to me because never did I think I would be sharing face care tips with my son or sharing the same facial scrubs. Today when he left for school he was worried about his hair because it was raining... he put a grocery bag over his head to run out to the car. It is just funny to me... not in a I am laughing at him... more in a I am enjoying the person he is. I am proud! Marco is not in marching band this year makes me sad but it was his choice. Sarah is not in cheer this year either. This is the first year in about 7 years where I don't have kids in any type of sports and I gotta say I enjoyed it this summer. I am enjoying that we don't have to rush to get anyone where they need to go. Sarah has a new boyfriend that I just love. She is all giggly with him and it is cute. I have a feeling this is gonna be the long term boyfriend. They are very comfortable together and I am comfortable with her being with him. I am learning that I have taught her right and that I have to trust her decisions. She is 17... don't get me wrong I am not throwing her out to the wolves at all... mama is still being mama just learning to let go and let her make her decisions. She is a good girl! Dom well I am trying to teach him about this world we live in, that people aren't always nice and you don't always get your way. He is working hard and going to school doing what he is supposed to do but he is still learning how to be an adult. We have talks or should I say lectures about the importance of him paying his car insurance... they just don't get it. He is learning tho. He is becoming a nice young man. He works at a department store now in customer service. Marco and I went shopping there the other day and the person that waited on us asked if Marco was Dom's brother... Marco said yes... she replied what a nice young man Dom is... Mama smiled real big! I guess what I am saying is my kids are doing good not PERFECT... but good and I am learning to understand their positions and have more compassion for them instead of trying to make everything PERFECT!
Nick is busy at work. I guess the marriage thing is kinda the same... not always blazing happy but content and know that marriage is a roller coaster sometimes. When I go to bed at night I know that I would not want anyone else laying next to me. I love and adore him! It doesn't mean I am always happy with him but I couldn't ask for a better husband.
My niece is getting married in a month and we are taking a trip to northern Michigan for the wedding. My sister had her shower at the end of August and I went. My sister never tried to talk to me or even look at me for that fact. That HURT! I just went along with the day like it didn't bother me but it did. I am so happy for my niece she is marrying a great guy and into a great family. I will not let my sister ruin this day for me at all!
I hope everyone is doing good!
School started here about a month ago for the twins and a few weeks ago for Dom. The twins are juniors this year and Dom is in his 2nd year of college. I enjoy these years with the kids even tho they can make you crazy. Marco is doing great so far this year he seems to be real focused and is in the medical program at the high school. That boy amazes me! I am so in awe of him and everything he is overcoming. He started Weight Watchers 9 weeks ago and has to date lost 33 pounds. I am so freggen proud of him! I am his biggest fan. I have to sit back and change gears while parenting him tho because he is sometimes like a girl. It is kinda funny to me because never did I think I would be sharing face care tips with my son or sharing the same facial scrubs. Today when he left for school he was worried about his hair because it was raining... he put a grocery bag over his head to run out to the car. It is just funny to me... not in a I am laughing at him... more in a I am enjoying the person he is. I am proud! Marco is not in marching band this year makes me sad but it was his choice. Sarah is not in cheer this year either. This is the first year in about 7 years where I don't have kids in any type of sports and I gotta say I enjoyed it this summer. I am enjoying that we don't have to rush to get anyone where they need to go. Sarah has a new boyfriend that I just love. She is all giggly with him and it is cute. I have a feeling this is gonna be the long term boyfriend. They are very comfortable together and I am comfortable with her being with him. I am learning that I have taught her right and that I have to trust her decisions. She is 17... don't get me wrong I am not throwing her out to the wolves at all... mama is still being mama just learning to let go and let her make her decisions. She is a good girl! Dom well I am trying to teach him about this world we live in, that people aren't always nice and you don't always get your way. He is working hard and going to school doing what he is supposed to do but he is still learning how to be an adult. We have talks or should I say lectures about the importance of him paying his car insurance... they just don't get it. He is learning tho. He is becoming a nice young man. He works at a department store now in customer service. Marco and I went shopping there the other day and the person that waited on us asked if Marco was Dom's brother... Marco said yes... she replied what a nice young man Dom is... Mama smiled real big! I guess what I am saying is my kids are doing good not PERFECT... but good and I am learning to understand their positions and have more compassion for them instead of trying to make everything PERFECT!
Nick is busy at work. I guess the marriage thing is kinda the same... not always blazing happy but content and know that marriage is a roller coaster sometimes. When I go to bed at night I know that I would not want anyone else laying next to me. I love and adore him! It doesn't mean I am always happy with him but I couldn't ask for a better husband.
My niece is getting married in a month and we are taking a trip to northern Michigan for the wedding. My sister had her shower at the end of August and I went. My sister never tried to talk to me or even look at me for that fact. That HURT! I just went along with the day like it didn't bother me but it did. I am so happy for my niece she is marrying a great guy and into a great family. I will not let my sister ruin this day for me at all!
I hope everyone is doing good!
Saturday, September 11, 2010
9-11-2001
One more thing... please say a prayer and remember everyone who lost their lives and their families on this tragic day. I remember it like it was yesterday and how devestated I was. Very sad day in history.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Renaming this blog
I think I may rename this blog to Marco's blog since it is about him all the time. I was just looking back at the last post that I did and it was almost exactly a month ago! I don't know what is going on with my child... I think someone stole him! I want my old child back. I was at work yesterday Marco called he said I did something stupid today... I said what? he said I took a pair of shorts from Jc Penney's I said yeah right I will talk to you when I get home. I totally thought he was joking. The phone rang again... it was him he said mom you have to come and get me... I said where he said the mall. I then realized he was not joking. I said let me talk to someone there... this female voice got on the phone and said we are waiting for the police you can come get your son at the loss prevention center! I felt numb... totally numb. I was shocked! I looked at the people I work with and said I have to go! I called his dad on the way we talked both shocked! I was telling myself all the way there don't yell... don't yell when you get in there. I walked in Jc Penney's feeling like the worst mom in the world and I quietly said to the lady... where is the loss prevention center... she said I will tell them your here. I walked in the room where he was and the lady said to me can you verify this information... I looked down and it was all my private information and his dads. I said why do you need this... she said we need it to get his birth certificate... some people pretend they are the parents and really aren't. At that moment I lost it... I was yelling at him and asking why??? what the hell were you thinking??? He just sat there blank with nothing to offer me. He stole a $46.00 pair of shorts. Went into the fitting room, took off the ones he was wearing, put the new ones on and left his old ones in the fitting room. We had to wait awhile for the Police to come because it is obviously not an emergency and I understand that. The guy finally said to me... I give you credit... I said why... he said most parents come in here and blame the store. I was shocked!!! Really your kid gets caught shoplifting and you have the nerve to blame the store? I would never! The cop finally came and explained that he is gonna be prosecuted. We walked out of the mall and I told Marco sit in the back seat I can't even look at you right now. I could not bring myself to look at him. His dad was mad but not as mad as me. In fact, he gave him his phone and just took away texting and grounded him for a month. I on the other hand have not even thought about his punishment yet. Today was his last day of school and it is supposed to be a day of fun and celebration. I love their last day of school. Sarah is out swimming with her friends and going to a shaving cream party tonight. He will be sitting home with me because he makes stupid choices. I am not gonna lie my heart is broken. I just wonder what is next if anything. I always hear from him I am on the right track now. That means nothing to me because I heard it May 18th and here we are again. I just wonder what the hell goes thru his head to make him do this stuff. I thank God every day for his grace and mercy he shines down on me because I would not be able to get thru this without it. I will continue to pray for my son and me.
When I got to work today they asked what was wrong yesterday when I left and I told them. I don't hide anything. A little while ago one of the guys I worked with said are you gonna hire an attorney to get him off... I said seriously? I said no why in the world would I want to do that they have him on tape stealing what kind of defense would I have to that. That is what is wrong with this world... it bothers me. Nobody is accountable for their actions. It makes me sick.
When I got to work today they asked what was wrong yesterday when I left and I told them. I don't hide anything. A little while ago one of the guys I worked with said are you gonna hire an attorney to get him off... I said seriously? I said no why in the world would I want to do that they have him on tape stealing what kind of defense would I have to that. That is what is wrong with this world... it bothers me. Nobody is accountable for their actions. It makes me sick.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Teenagers


I love my kids with all my heart! I have always been that mom that always gets right into them. I guess you could say I am like a big kid. My dad was that way with us and I seemed to have carried the tradition on LOL. When Dom was in high school I seriously didn't have any problems with him other than him being mouthy every once in awhile. He went to school, got good grades, did his homework and never broke a curfew. I got lucky with him because the twins are different. Sarah gets good grades and pretty much does what she is supposed to do. The only problem I have with her is the girl issues... ya know when they can't have their own way! Marco on the other hand, this child is me thru and thru. He is alot more adventurous and daring than the other two. He has had a rough year and frankly so have I. It started in the beginning of the year with his phone getting taken away several times, then he got a D on his progress report, asked to go to counseling in December and found out he was gay a few months ago. It just seems one thing after another with him. Sunday night he came home from a bike ride and said he had to talk to me. We went into my bedroom and he started crying. I was like WTH is it now? He told me that he smoked pot a few months ago. I asked why are you telling me this now and why didn't you tell me when you did it? He said he was gonna but just couldn't do it. I went into the long conversation of how you never know what your getting and you could die from trying a drug once. I told him I needed to process this and for him to go to his room. In the meantime, Dom came home to tell me the same thing. That is why Marco told me because his brother found out and was gonna tell me. It is not the smoking pot that is so bothersome to me it is what may come after that. Is he gonna try something else and get addicted. I seriously worry about this child. He did tell me he hated the way it made him feel and would never do it again. I don't know that I necessarily believe that. I wanna believe it but I just don't know. I ended up taking his phone and his computer. I told him life as he knew it was over... it is now different because he broke the trust issue I had with him. I told him it would take a long time to build that trust again. I was looking at him last night sitting in the chair and I wanted to cry. The kid just wants to fit in and I totally understand that but this is not the way to fit it. He has a great personality but why can't he see that? Why can't he see he doesn't need drugs to fit in? He just wants to belong! I hope and pray he finds it within himself to belong without having to change who he is. I pray for him to get a better self confidence so that he doesn't feel so pressured by his peers. I aslo pray for me to be able to give him what he needs to succeed. I love him and will do whatever it takes to get him thru these ackward years.
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Vegas and anxiety
I have had anxiety issues my whole sometimes it is worse than others. The last few years it has been really bad I am not sure why. When Nick said we were going to Vegas for his work my anxiety went to an all-time high. The mere fact that I had never been there was the main factor. I am ok going somewhere if I have been there before but the unknown is when my anxiety goes out of control. I prayed and prayed for it to go away. I was mainly nervous because I have not flew in 15 years. I have flew quite a few times but not in a long time. As the day approached so did my anxiety and with each day it got worse. I was literally planning on the plane crashing. That is how bad it was! I kept telling myself your gonna be fine... but there is always that what if? I guess sometimes I could what if myself to death. We got to the airport and I seemed to be calmer that is until I heard our plane broke and it would be a 5 hour delay. I started to freak out thinking WTF are they gonna put us on a broken plane. I was sure we were gonna crash after hearing that. I started asking Nick if that is what their plan was to put us on a broken plane. He said Hunny I don't think so. We sat, waited and waited. Finally, I said to him lets go somewhere instead of sitting here and waiting. We left the airport to get something to eat and hang out until it was almost time for us to go. I was thrilled to be out of the airport for awhile. Then the time came again for us to go back and I could feel my heart racing. We boarded the plane and OMG I was so anxious I was grinding my teeth. The plane started to take off and I just kept telling myself it is gonna be fine! The truth is it was fine and I didn't relax the whole flight but it was fine. We had a great time in Vegas and I could kick myself in the ass for making myself miserable for weeks before this trip. How is it that now I can look back and see how stupid it was but at the time you just can't stop yourself? One of the girls we were traveling with took a Zanax and I was comtemplating taking one even tho I never have LOL. Vegas is beautiful but I don't know that I would go back again. Way too crowded and busy for me. I like to relax when I am gone on the beach somewhere. I didn't sleep more than 13 hours in 4 days. I was exhausted when I got home I slept like 14 hours straight and I am still not caught up on my sleep. I guess it will take days for that to happen.
I hope everyone is doing well and I wish everyone a Happy Mothers Day!
I hope everyone is doing well and I wish everyone a Happy Mothers Day!
Saturday, April 10, 2010
busy
It has been a busy Spring at work. I mean I am exhausted when I get home... not the type where you feel sleepy but flat out exhausted. The store I am at now covers a huge area and it seems as tho the phones don't stop and the work just keeps coming in which is good. It is just exhausting. I haven't been blogging alot for that reason. I love to come here and blog I just have not had the time. I feel like I have no time to myself EVER! If I am not working, I am cooking or cleaning. It is kinda like a record playing over and over again. That is why I am looking so forward to going to Vegas with Nick. We leave on the 30th and it is gonna be great to not have to do anything!
I am in a place in my life right now which is kinda weird for me. I have always been very social and a social drinker. Lately, I don't wanna drink at all which is a good thing. Its not like I was ever a huge drinker but a social one. It just doesn't even sound fun to me anymore. Some of my friends are like WTH is up with you but I just don't have it in me. Is it that I am finally growing up? LOL The thing is the last time I went out which was in January I drank, worked the next morning and pretty much felt like shit for 3 days. I mean is it really worth it? I don't think it is anymore. I have changed so much over the last few years. I was always a night owl now I am a morning person. It makes no sense to me! I love the fresh feeling morning brings. I was driving into work this morning with the sun shining and I just love it! I wanna get up early which was never the case before. I don't wanna lounge in my jammies on the weekends. I just feel there is too much to do and I don't wanna miss anything. So maybe just maybe I am growing up LOL. I like this ME I really do! I feel fresh!
Easter was great! I got up and went to church with the kids and then lunch. They went to their dads and Nick and I headed to his moms. It was a nice dinner and a gorgeous day! The weather here has been beautiful! The trees seem like they are blooming a month early which is great. My allergies are crazy but it should be over soon.
I sure hope everyone has a great weekend!
I am in a place in my life right now which is kinda weird for me. I have always been very social and a social drinker. Lately, I don't wanna drink at all which is a good thing. Its not like I was ever a huge drinker but a social one. It just doesn't even sound fun to me anymore. Some of my friends are like WTH is up with you but I just don't have it in me. Is it that I am finally growing up? LOL The thing is the last time I went out which was in January I drank, worked the next morning and pretty much felt like shit for 3 days. I mean is it really worth it? I don't think it is anymore. I have changed so much over the last few years. I was always a night owl now I am a morning person. It makes no sense to me! I love the fresh feeling morning brings. I was driving into work this morning with the sun shining and I just love it! I wanna get up early which was never the case before. I don't wanna lounge in my jammies on the weekends. I just feel there is too much to do and I don't wanna miss anything. So maybe just maybe I am growing up LOL. I like this ME I really do! I feel fresh!
Easter was great! I got up and went to church with the kids and then lunch. They went to their dads and Nick and I headed to his moms. It was a nice dinner and a gorgeous day! The weather here has been beautiful! The trees seem like they are blooming a month early which is great. My allergies are crazy but it should be over soon.
I sure hope everyone has a great weekend!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
blah
I know I post about Marco being gay and time is healing I am praying for grace and mercy... I am still not anywhere near what I need to be. This Saturday Nick had to work a home show so he was gone most of the day. I woke up at like 8:00 and Colleen called and asked me to go to breakfast with her so I did. I got up put the ole hat on, brushed my teeth, put my raggiest jeans I could find on and out the door I went. I looked horrible! I didn't care tho sometimes you just have to do it. After breakfast Sarah wanted to go return something at the mall. I picked her up and we were off. I noticed the night before that my deodorant was in the bathroom and I never use it in the bathroom. I always have it in my room. I didn't think anything of it I just thought that maybe Sarah used it. In the car I asked her if she used it and she said no... she said she did notice it on the counter tho along with my body spray. I was like what I didn't even notice the body spray????? I was really bothered by this because it is powder fresh scented deodorant which is weird for anyone other than a girl to wear. Right away I thought of Marco. I asked him when we got home if he used it and immediately said no. Someone used it and I am a little freaked out about it. See these are things that I am not used to yet. I was thinking fine if he wants that type of deodorant then I will buy it but how many moms ever think they will be sharing their deodorant with the boys? Not many LOL. These are the things I am trying to deal with. Sarah and I talked while we shopped and we are both bothered by it... not him... but it. So I was asking her if maybe she wanted to go to counseling for us and she said yes. I think I may just do that. Then I thought there has to be a support group somewhere around me that deals with things like this so I am checking into that. I NEED IT! I love my son with all my heart and I don't ever want him to feel anything other than loved and accepted. I need to work on me is all.
Thursday, March 11, 2010
I am just ME!
I don't know how to write this without it sounding full of myself! I am so not full of myself at all. I am confident outwardly but no so confident on the inside. I just go with it for the most part. I recently go transferred to another store with alot more people working there. I am used to being a one woman show or two woman at the most in the office. This was a change for me to say the least. I have alot more people I am responsible for. Ya know we are our own best critics or should I say worst critics. I can look in the mirror at myself and see a 100 things that I hate. While my husband can look at me and think I am so HOT! I don't get that at all. I try to take care of myself for the most part but I am far from perfect. I look in the mirror and see FAT... he looks at me and says how skinny I am. Obviously, we have such different takes on me. The one thing that I am secure with is respecting myself and others. I try to teach by example in any place be it work or home. I guess you never know the impact you have on other people. I am a very likeable person because I am very outspoken , full of energy and fun. I love fashion, love my hair done and my nails done. I don't do this for anyone else but myself. It is ME! It is the things I enjoy in life. I like getting up in the morning thinking of what I am gonna wear that day. When I started at this store there is another lady in the office and she is about 6 or so years older than me. We are supposed to dress up for work. I am guilty sometimes of wearing nice jeans with a sweater but I normally dress up. The lady at work was wearing hoodies and I never said anything to her I would just show up each day dressed up. Without me saying a word she said one day "I gotta go shopping so I can look as nice as you do each day" I was shocked that she would even think that... like I said I am just ME! I don't even do it for that reason it is just what I like. I got to thinking about what she said and I have heard things before from my friends like: I do it just like you do or I want my hair just like yours. I still don't get it. I look at me and just see me. It just goes to show you... you never know what kind of impact you have on people. Just a little something I was thinking of today. Thought I would share.
I just found out yesterday that Nick and I are going to Vegas in May for a work convention for him. I am sooooo excited I have never been to Vegas so I keep walking around the house saying me, you and Vegas baby!!!! His reply to me is what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas LOL. I can't wait to go!
The weather here this week has been great almost hitting the 60's! Bring Spring on! I hope everyone enjoys their weekend.
I just found out yesterday that Nick and I are going to Vegas in May for a work convention for him. I am sooooo excited I have never been to Vegas so I keep walking around the house saying me, you and Vegas baby!!!! His reply to me is what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas LOL. I can't wait to go!
The weather here this week has been great almost hitting the 60's! Bring Spring on! I hope everyone enjoys their weekend.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
God




I was watching the news this morning as I was getting ready for work and they did a special on the buses in Detroit. They are putting a new sign on the side of the bus that says "Don't believe in God--- your not alone". The newscaster went on to say that this was not intended to offend anyone but rather let people that don't believe in God know that they are not alone. Really??? I don't believe I have ever seen anything posted anywhere about believing in God. I guess this really does offend me! I would love to see something on the bus say "Believe in God --- your not alone". Enough on this cuz I really could go on and on. I believe in God and I feel everyone should believe is some higher power. How are we supposed to get thru life with out believing in something higher than us. For me I totally believe in God I feel Him working in me all the time! I love feeling His presence in me. I just don't understand how other people don't believe in anything. I think that after they have that one up for awhile then they need to put one that says the opposite for us God believers!
Marco has been doing great! He has been the happiest I have seen him in months and it is thru God's Grace that I am getting thru and understanding my son for who he is. I love who he is and always have it is just a different understanding for me now. I guess now that I look back I can see it. He has always been my goofy one. I am pretty goofy myself and hyper so he definitely takes after me. I love seeing me in him! He is just full of life and I want him to stay that way. He has the best personality and is loved by everyone. His friends are ok with him and I am so happy about that. I know the road ahead of him is not always gonna be the easiest but hey none of us have had it easy all the time.
Sarah just got done with cheer and turned her uniform in yesterday. She was sad but excited at the same time because now she has a few months off. She has the cutest little BF right now. He is so nice and they are so cute!
Dom is just working and going to school. Although lately he has been spending more time with me and I am loving that. I think next year he is gonna stay on campus tho because his sleeping habits are a bit much for me to handle. He is seriously up all night eating at like 2:00 in the morning then sleeping all day on the weekends. Doing laundry at 1:30 in the morning so maybe next year it is time for him to get his own pad as much as I don't want to see him go it may be time LOL.
I put some pictures up cuz it has been awhile. I don't have any clue where they are gonna end up on here but there is one of Me and my bestie Marsha, me Nick and Marco, Sarah and her BF and the whole gang that was over a few weeks ago for Snowcoming!
Saturday, February 27, 2010
life
It has been extremely busy at our house actually a bit too busy. I have not had alot of time to blog because I changed locations for work and have a new position which is alot more work for me. I am still trying to adjust to that. I only used to drive like 2 miles to work now I am driving alot farther so that takes more time out of my day. I am still adjusting.
There has been alot that has gone on in my house over the last week or so. Back in October I started having problems with Marco. His grades started dropping, being really mouthy and just unhappy. He got his phone taken away at school 3 times in that month I had to pick it up from the school and I was not happy. I went thru his texts and found some things that I was not happy about. One text saying to his friend that he thought he was gay. I confronted him and of course he denied it. Since then I have noticed certain things about him that made me wonder but I didn't say anything. He asked to go to counseling back in December so we put him in counseling they did some testing and found out that he is ADHD and has alot of anxiety issues. Neither of them took me by surprise. I thought that was what we were dealing with so I was working with him to try to ease some of his anxiety. He just recently got a D on a progress report which he has never had one before. Sunday night we were sitting eating dinner just Me, Nick, Sarah and Dom Marco was at his youth group. I was talking to Dom about how he is so hairy and that I am shocked because he is lighter than Marco. Dom said mom maybe Marco shaves his legs... I said well if he shaves his legs then we have to talk. Then Dom said mom Marco is gay! I said how do you know??? He said he told me last night on FB. I was shocked and I should not have been because I seen the texts and the seed was planted. It was just strange for me because it was true. Marco was not gonna be home for 2 hours so I sat and waited. When he came home I confronted him and said I know I have asked you this before but I need to know the truth. When I asked he did not say anything and I then demanded an answer. He walked over to my bed knelt down and just cried. At that moment my heart was breaking for him because I thought to myself what a thing to carry around with you for so long. I assured him that no matter what I still loved him. The whole family came and told him the same. I think at this point it is so important for him to know he is loved and accepted. He was emotionally exhausted and went to bed. When he got up Monday for school he was the happiest I have seen him in months. For me I am happy he is happy but I feel like I am grieving a loss. A loss of what I had dreamed of for him. I know that sounds so selfish but that is the way I feel. At work Monday I kept crying on and off. I guess I feel stupid because now that I look back I can see it. I talked to his best friend on Monday after work and he told me that he kinda knew all along but Marco had told him in the summer. There are things that I didn't know probably because Marco didn't want me to know. Like the fact that he has befriended alot of gay friends at school but I don't know any of these kids. I am sure that was totally on purpose. It is hard for me right now it is an adjustment period. The funny thing is he made me promise not to tell his counselor and I said no that is what we are in counseling for so we went Tuesday night and it came out and the counselor was not surprised. It is just an ackward thing right now like Tuesday when we were getting ready to leave for counseling he was trying to pick my lip gloss color. Like I said it is an adjustment for everyone. He has always tried telling me what to wear and how to wear my make up I seriously didn't think anything of it I just thought he wanted me to look good LOL. I know stupid on my part because Dom would never do anything of the sort. So I have been praying alot and praying for guidance, mercy and grace. We will get thru this it will just take time. As for Marco I am glad he is feeling better!
On a sidenote the weather here has totally sucked for the last few weeks snow, snow and more snow dammit LOL. I want Spring! I sure hope everyone has a good weekend!
There has been alot that has gone on in my house over the last week or so. Back in October I started having problems with Marco. His grades started dropping, being really mouthy and just unhappy. He got his phone taken away at school 3 times in that month I had to pick it up from the school and I was not happy. I went thru his texts and found some things that I was not happy about. One text saying to his friend that he thought he was gay. I confronted him and of course he denied it. Since then I have noticed certain things about him that made me wonder but I didn't say anything. He asked to go to counseling back in December so we put him in counseling they did some testing and found out that he is ADHD and has alot of anxiety issues. Neither of them took me by surprise. I thought that was what we were dealing with so I was working with him to try to ease some of his anxiety. He just recently got a D on a progress report which he has never had one before. Sunday night we were sitting eating dinner just Me, Nick, Sarah and Dom Marco was at his youth group. I was talking to Dom about how he is so hairy and that I am shocked because he is lighter than Marco. Dom said mom maybe Marco shaves his legs... I said well if he shaves his legs then we have to talk. Then Dom said mom Marco is gay! I said how do you know??? He said he told me last night on FB. I was shocked and I should not have been because I seen the texts and the seed was planted. It was just strange for me because it was true. Marco was not gonna be home for 2 hours so I sat and waited. When he came home I confronted him and said I know I have asked you this before but I need to know the truth. When I asked he did not say anything and I then demanded an answer. He walked over to my bed knelt down and just cried. At that moment my heart was breaking for him because I thought to myself what a thing to carry around with you for so long. I assured him that no matter what I still loved him. The whole family came and told him the same. I think at this point it is so important for him to know he is loved and accepted. He was emotionally exhausted and went to bed. When he got up Monday for school he was the happiest I have seen him in months. For me I am happy he is happy but I feel like I am grieving a loss. A loss of what I had dreamed of for him. I know that sounds so selfish but that is the way I feel. At work Monday I kept crying on and off. I guess I feel stupid because now that I look back I can see it. I talked to his best friend on Monday after work and he told me that he kinda knew all along but Marco had told him in the summer. There are things that I didn't know probably because Marco didn't want me to know. Like the fact that he has befriended alot of gay friends at school but I don't know any of these kids. I am sure that was totally on purpose. It is hard for me right now it is an adjustment period. The funny thing is he made me promise not to tell his counselor and I said no that is what we are in counseling for so we went Tuesday night and it came out and the counselor was not surprised. It is just an ackward thing right now like Tuesday when we were getting ready to leave for counseling he was trying to pick my lip gloss color. Like I said it is an adjustment for everyone. He has always tried telling me what to wear and how to wear my make up I seriously didn't think anything of it I just thought he wanted me to look good LOL. I know stupid on my part because Dom would never do anything of the sort. So I have been praying alot and praying for guidance, mercy and grace. We will get thru this it will just take time. As for Marco I am glad he is feeling better!
On a sidenote the weather here has totally sucked for the last few weeks snow, snow and more snow dammit LOL. I want Spring! I sure hope everyone has a good weekend!
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Prayers
Like I do everyday I stopped at home yesterday to pick Sarah up and drop her off at the school for cheer. I pulled out of the parking lot and noticed the Channel 4 News truck there. I was wondering why they were there but didn't put much thought into it. I went home hung out and woke up this morning to go to work. I was watching the news and they had a thing on there about a 16 year old girl missing in Mexico. She went to Mexico with her grandma and on Thursday she was seen on the beach and that was the last time she was seen. She has been missing since. They showed the mom on the news this morning crying and it broke my heart. I felt so sad. I just now found out that she goes to school with the twins. Now I know why the news truck was at the school. I feel bad for her family and her. If you could just say a prayer for her to come back home to her family. It is just horrible! I am sure it will make national news as these things do.
I got transferred this week to a new store. I start there on Monday which the whole week will be a busy one I am sure getting settled in and getting used to working with new people. I am excited tho cuz it will be a new challenge for me. We are consolidating stores so the one I was at they are going to be closing in a few months. I am happy to still have a job!
Nick's birthday was this week we celebrated by going to our favorite little hole in the wall bar and having some burgers and beers! He doesn't like his birthday to be a big deal so we celebrate his way LOL. Me on the other hand, I love my birthday to be acknowledged!
Sarah's cheer team has been doing good in their competitions. So far, they have got 2--1st places, a 2nd place and 1--3rd place. Marco is busy doing his thing at school and being Marco which pretty much means being hyper and driving me crazy LOL. Dom is working and going to school. He is trying to make this transition into being an adult and I gotta say I am pretty proud of him. They all had colds for the last few weeks and I ended up getting it Thursday. I told them they don't have to share everything with me. They can keep that to themselves LOL.
It is freezing cold here in Michigan!! It was like 2 here this morning and I hate when it is this cold! It sucks because it seems like no matter what you wear you never get warm until you are in bed! So looking forward to Spring!!!
I hope everyone has a good weekend!
I got transferred this week to a new store. I start there on Monday which the whole week will be a busy one I am sure getting settled in and getting used to working with new people. I am excited tho cuz it will be a new challenge for me. We are consolidating stores so the one I was at they are going to be closing in a few months. I am happy to still have a job!
Nick's birthday was this week we celebrated by going to our favorite little hole in the wall bar and having some burgers and beers! He doesn't like his birthday to be a big deal so we celebrate his way LOL. Me on the other hand, I love my birthday to be acknowledged!
Sarah's cheer team has been doing good in their competitions. So far, they have got 2--1st places, a 2nd place and 1--3rd place. Marco is busy doing his thing at school and being Marco which pretty much means being hyper and driving me crazy LOL. Dom is working and going to school. He is trying to make this transition into being an adult and I gotta say I am pretty proud of him. They all had colds for the last few weeks and I ended up getting it Thursday. I told them they don't have to share everything with me. They can keep that to themselves LOL.
It is freezing cold here in Michigan!! It was like 2 here this morning and I hate when it is this cold! It sucks because it seems like no matter what you wear you never get warm until you are in bed! So looking forward to Spring!!!
I hope everyone has a good weekend!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Happy New Yearone
It has been a long time since I posted anything here. Life is busy. Sarah's cheer competition has started and that takes up quite a bit of time. It seems we go from one thing to another in this house.
The holidays were great! We cut back alot this year with the gifts which was nice. It was less stressful as far as shopping is concerned. We went to my SIL's for Christmas Eve and it was just the adults because my kids were at their dad's house and my SIL and nephew were in FLorida. We had a wonderful dinner with cocktails. It was a very nice evening. My SIL lives in Grosse Pointe. I am not sure if you have heard of that but it is one of the richest areas in the United States. It was on the Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous before. Anyway, she lives alone in this huge house. The houses in Grosse Pointe (well there are like 5 different Grosse Pointes she lives in the Farms) are very old but very unique. They are not cookie cutter houses. I love it there. The Grosse Pointes also each have their own park. The cities are right along the lake so most of the parks are on the lake. Very nice community. Nick grew up in Grosse Pointe Park and hopefully one day we will move there after the kids graduate. I love the parks in the summer time. Christmas day we had at my house. My mom, uncles, aunts and nieces came. I made a great dinner and it was nice to see everyone and enjoy everyones company. Nick and I had the week before Christmas off together it was nice but by the end of the week I was ready to go back to work. New Years eve we went to a party it was fun! I am not a big new years fan just because I get nervous about driving home with all the drunks on the road so it kinda dampers my night.
I have this week off of work for Furlough. Our company made it mandatory for each employee to take 2 weeks off for furlough. My next week off is the 2nd week in February. I wish the weeks were in the summer I would have much more to do I mean it is a whopping 18 degrees out today. WTH are you gonna do in that weather. I guess I will find something around here to do today. Although I am still in my jammies right now LOL. Nick asked for a date night tonight which pretty much means sex LOL. You would think it would mean out to dinner or something like that. Nope it means sex LOL. I am sitting in my great room now and my feet are literally freezing.
Yesterday I spent the day with Colleen going to her drs appts with her. She was freaked out because her sister just got diagnosed with breast cancer and these were her female appts. I went with her then we went to lunch and picked up the baby. We took the baby to see my mom for the first time and she was so excited. I ended up taking him home for most of the day and took him home about 9:00. Rebecca said he was fussy and she was tired so I kept him for awhile. I guess you forget how much work they are til you have one around again. I can't believe how freaking heavy the car seat thing is. The thought that I used to carry 2 of those around just amazes me. I could never do that now it would kill my back. I enjoyed him alot he is so cute! I remember being a first time mom and nobody being able to tell me anything. Why is that? I mean you think first time moms would take advice from another mom but no they don't lol. I was trying to tell her a few things and I stopped because I could see she was getting annoyed and I totally understand. The baby was fine with me all day but she said the minute I dropped him off he was fussy all night. I was trying to tell her that babies can sense your frustration. Oh well, she didn't believe me and I guess I would not have either. It is just a funny concept to me.
I sure hope everyone enjoyed their holidays and looking forward to spring soon :0) Have a great day!
The holidays were great! We cut back alot this year with the gifts which was nice. It was less stressful as far as shopping is concerned. We went to my SIL's for Christmas Eve and it was just the adults because my kids were at their dad's house and my SIL and nephew were in FLorida. We had a wonderful dinner with cocktails. It was a very nice evening. My SIL lives in Grosse Pointe. I am not sure if you have heard of that but it is one of the richest areas in the United States. It was on the Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous before. Anyway, she lives alone in this huge house. The houses in Grosse Pointe (well there are like 5 different Grosse Pointes she lives in the Farms) are very old but very unique. They are not cookie cutter houses. I love it there. The Grosse Pointes also each have their own park. The cities are right along the lake so most of the parks are on the lake. Very nice community. Nick grew up in Grosse Pointe Park and hopefully one day we will move there after the kids graduate. I love the parks in the summer time. Christmas day we had at my house. My mom, uncles, aunts and nieces came. I made a great dinner and it was nice to see everyone and enjoy everyones company. Nick and I had the week before Christmas off together it was nice but by the end of the week I was ready to go back to work. New Years eve we went to a party it was fun! I am not a big new years fan just because I get nervous about driving home with all the drunks on the road so it kinda dampers my night.
I have this week off of work for Furlough. Our company made it mandatory for each employee to take 2 weeks off for furlough. My next week off is the 2nd week in February. I wish the weeks were in the summer I would have much more to do I mean it is a whopping 18 degrees out today. WTH are you gonna do in that weather. I guess I will find something around here to do today. Although I am still in my jammies right now LOL. Nick asked for a date night tonight which pretty much means sex LOL. You would think it would mean out to dinner or something like that. Nope it means sex LOL. I am sitting in my great room now and my feet are literally freezing.
Yesterday I spent the day with Colleen going to her drs appts with her. She was freaked out because her sister just got diagnosed with breast cancer and these were her female appts. I went with her then we went to lunch and picked up the baby. We took the baby to see my mom for the first time and she was so excited. I ended up taking him home for most of the day and took him home about 9:00. Rebecca said he was fussy and she was tired so I kept him for awhile. I guess you forget how much work they are til you have one around again. I can't believe how freaking heavy the car seat thing is. The thought that I used to carry 2 of those around just amazes me. I could never do that now it would kill my back. I enjoyed him alot he is so cute! I remember being a first time mom and nobody being able to tell me anything. Why is that? I mean you think first time moms would take advice from another mom but no they don't lol. I was trying to tell her a few things and I stopped because I could see she was getting annoyed and I totally understand. The baby was fine with me all day but she said the minute I dropped him off he was fussy all night. I was trying to tell her that babies can sense your frustration. Oh well, she didn't believe me and I guess I would not have either. It is just a funny concept to me.
I sure hope everyone enjoyed their holidays and looking forward to spring soon :0) Have a great day!
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)




